Creeva’s World 2.0

The other day at work I had men­tioned my 9th wed­ding anniver­sary com­ing up and of course as per cus­tom my co-workers con­grat­u­lated me. After the first sen­tence you are prob­a­bly won­der­ing what the title has to do with this post. Well let’s get into that.

Com­ing back from lunch one of my co-workers clar­i­fied that I was going to be mar­ried for nine years. I con­firmed his state­ment. He then asked me why I where shoes like I’m a high schooler still. For a moment I was taken aback.

Let’s get some things out of the way, this gen­tle­man may not be old enough to be my grand­fa­ther, but he is older then my father. He has long hair in a pony tail. prob­a­bly in in his mid 50’s maybe push­ing early 60;s — all in all age doesn’t mat­ter to me much, he is a man like any other.

For a moment I was just dumb­founded. I look down at his feet and he had brown wingtips on, but they were scuffed and aged for a few years. Some­thing with dress shoes that I would never wear any­thing that beat up out in pub­lic for that shoe style. I used to always wear dress shoes when I was con­sult­ing, but since I’m in the office all day I wear some­thing more befit­ting to my work and being on my feet more often then I was when I was consulting.

How do you explain to this gen­tle­man that I value my per­sonal com­fort when occa­sions allow for it then any false brava­does of style? That gen­er­a­tionally the wing tips don’t fit most peo­ple in their late 20’s early 30’s like they did twenty to thirty years ago. That fash­ion slaves no longer need to exist to the level in busi­ness that the older gen­er­a­tion once believed. Even IBM employ­ees don’t wear suits and ties to work any more.

I left it with that line that they were com­fort­able and that’s why I wear them. I didn’t add that my dress shoes don’t look like they are falling apart and 4 months past the need a good polishing.

In the end — I don’t under­stand what that has to do with being mar­ried for 9 years.

I assume these would be a more fit­ting style accord­ing to him for a guy mar­ried 9 years then the shoes pic­tured above (the style I nor­mally buy):

Ug.

Any­ways I’ve been hap­pily mar­ried now for 9 short years and hope­fully will stay that way into I’m just a mem­ory in everyone’s eye and someone’s whose thoughts only exist in the archive.org way­back machine.

I love my wife with all of my heart, there are the tri­als and tribu­la­tions that go with any mar­riage and being the same per­son for over a decade. How­ever we per­se­vere and go one (though we still argue about copy­right law — HEATEDLY). We will man­age to get through and stay in bliss­ful debate and won­der­ful mar­riage until our dying day.

I will how­ever still wear the shoes I like and not the ones befit­ting a cer­tain age or social eco­nomic structure.