When Did We Become Adults – or Did We?

June 16, 2008

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The picture above is me, it’s over three decades old.   Sometimes that seems like a lot of time that has gone by.  Other times it seems that no time at all has passed.   I can say I still feel like I am in my early twenties, but I think that is what most people in my shoes feel.

Over the weekend I sat down and talked with some people I hadn’t seen in years.   Some of them have been through divorces.   Some of them have children, and at least one has ten year old daughter that I knew both the parents before tehy knew each other.  When you start getting to this level of discussion, though none of us are what you would consider normal family types, you need to look back an assess the situation.

My wife and I were one of the first in our normal group of friends that got married.   That seemed weird to most of our friends back then.  I think part of that was due to the fact that they were all younger then us.  To see how everyone had changed, how their lives have come together or fallen apart was odd.   In alot of ways we are still the same, we are completely different people now in the dynamics that brought us together.  We are no longer the tight knit group we once seemed to be.   It’s a bit more organic now that we’ve each gone our own paths.    There isn’t a loss of friendships, but the ties that bound us together have greatly loosened.   Our daily activities that once was all of us together no longer exists.   We each have our own lives, our own thoughts, our own positions and friends outside of the circle.

We still act like children in our hearts though and that is what is important.   To everyone I saw over the weekend – let’s do it again next year.

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