Creeva’s World 2.0

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The sex talk, it’s some­thing teenagers dread and so do par­ents.   I think I was a pre-teen the first time my par­ents tried to broach the sub­ject.    I had already been aware from enough TV shows were a par­ent attempted to have a sex talk with their child that it was not a good thing.   I avoided it like the plague, just not want­ing to deal with it.

The first time my par­ents were watch­ing the show Dal­las and we’re all aware how much sex is shown non explic­itly on prime time soap operas.    My par­ents were dis­cussing and won­der­ing if I under­stood what was hap­pen­ing and if it would effect me.   Now I’m not going to say I under­stood com­pletely, but I knew enough to under­stand where this con­ver­sa­tion was headed and I didn’t want any of it.   I replied that they were just going to bed and get­ting ready to fall asleep.   That was the first time I avoided this conversation.

It was a tight end-run in sixth grade when I scored the high­est in class on a sex edu­ca­tion test.   Actu­ally it was more a genet­ics test, but I got both the extra credit ques­tion cor­rect, plus 100% on the test — this brought my score to 106%, the high­est out of the whole 100 stu­dents in the sixth grade.

Over the fol­low­ing years I mas­tered avoid­ance of the sub­ject, until the week before I was going to leave for col­lege.   My mother sat me down and started to explain sex to me, at this point in time why bother.  I real­ized for some rea­son my avoid­ance tac­tics were not going to work this time.   I told my mother point blank, “I don’t want to talk about this, I lost my vir­gin­ity three years ago and I don’t think there is any­thing you can tell me.”   That shut her up, she mulled around and I went back to my day of packing.

Now I have ot start plan­ning down the road how I’m going to talk to my kid about sex and when.   I under­stand the avoid­ance tac­tics so they won’t be able to pull that one.   Of course if it was only my deci­sion I would let them learn the same way I did, school gos­sip, school edu­ca­tion, and prac­tic­ing it them­selves.   Sadly I’ve already been told it isn’t going to work out that way.