Comments on: My Estranged Mother E-mails Me to Say – I Told You So http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/ My life unfolding and being told online - 1 byte of information at a time. Thu, 26 Jan 2012 20:55:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Daily Digest Online Activity for January 25th | Creeva's World 2.0 http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-17463 Daily Digest Online Activity for January 25th | Creeva's World 2.0 Wed, 26 Jan 2011 00:54:28 +0000 http://creeva.com/?p=3509#comment-17463 [...] Posted Re: My Estranged Mother E-mails Me to Say – I Told You So. [...] [...] Posted Re: My Estranged Mother E-mails Me to Say – I Told You So. [...]

]]> By: creeva http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-17454 creeva Tue, 25 Jan 2011 15:48:00 +0000 http://creeva.com/?p=3509#comment-17454 Such a nice and thoughtful thing to say. I mean it makes me want to tell my son my house is no longer his home right now. Maybe I should get a leap on things and teach him that a persons worth is what they own and the appearance of how much money they earn. I mean these are the things that really matter right? Not caring whether your child had a good time at a sleep over, but how was the house you stayed at decorated. I'll also give up on life and have my children do everything for me including trying to help pay my bills - but constantly shop the home shopping network daily while complaining I have no money. I'll also make sure that bringing a date I've been seeing 2 months along on the parent student award nights at high school - after my date (who 4 months later will be my spouse) smacks him upside the head the first time they meet him. Yeah - I'll start working on that right now and maybe my son will love me just as much as I love my mother. But seriously - if I screw up the relationship with my son, I'll accept that I'll deserve it and not blame him for everything thinking that I'm completely innocent. Only the completely naive think they are not culpable. I'll also have the advantage of screwing up completely differently than my mother did with me. So how long has it been since your child spoke to you? Such a nice and thoughtful thing to say. I mean it makes me want to tell my son my house is no longer his home right now. Maybe I should get a leap on things and teach him that a persons worth is what they own and the appearance of how much money they earn. I mean these are the things that really matter right? Not caring whether your child had a good time at a sleep over, but how was the house you stayed at decorated.

I’ll also give up on life and have my children do everything for me including trying to help pay my bills – but constantly shop the home shopping network daily while complaining I have no money. I’ll also make sure that bringing a date I’ve been seeing 2 months along on the parent student award nights at high school – after my date (who 4 months later will be my spouse) smacks him upside the head the first time they meet him.

Yeah – I’ll start working on that right now and maybe my son will love me just as much as I love my mother.

But seriously – if I screw up the relationship with my son, I’ll accept that I’ll deserve it and not blame him for everything thinking that I’m completely innocent. Only the completely naive think they are not culpable. I’ll also have the advantage of screwing up completely differently than my mother did with me.

So how long has it been since your child spoke to you?

]]> By: Capresto42 http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-17449 Capresto42 Mon, 24 Jan 2011 23:47:00 +0000 http://creeva.com/?p=3509#comment-17449 I feel sad for you. Some day that child that you will come to love with a kind of love that you cannot comprehend right now, might just treat you in the same manner that you are treating your mother. I feel sad for you. Some day that child that you will come to love with a kind of love that you cannot comprehend right now, might just treat you in the same manner that you are treating your mother.

]]> By: Gretel Ella Smith http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-16678 Gretel Ella Smith Tue, 10 Mar 2009 23:48:00 +0000 http://creeva.com/?p=3509#comment-16678 Your relationship with your mother, as well as the estrangement, sounds so much like mine. I, too, am keeping my child away from the known danger (my mother). My mother did enough damage to my brother and me... I am not letting her near my child. I have my entire life history, followed by some analysis on my blog site (<a href="http://www.thequeenandking.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">www.thequeenandking.blogspot.com</a>) if you want to drop by. Having this estrangement is tough, as I want a healthy and happy relationship with my mother-- but it's just not going to happen. My relationship has been the same my entire life... why would it change now. In fact, it only gets worse as the years go by. Thanks for sharing your story about the email-- it hit home in many ways. Your relationship with your mother, as well as the estrangement, sounds so much like mine. I, too, am keeping my child away from the known danger (my mother). My mother did enough damage to my brother and me… I am not letting her near my child. I have my entire life history, followed by some analysis on my blog site (http://www.thequeenandking.blogspot.com) if you want to drop by. Having this estrangement is tough, as I want a healthy and happy relationship with my mother– but it's just not going to happen. My relationship has been the same my entire life… why would it change now. In fact, it only gets worse as the years go by. Thanks for sharing your story about the email– it hit home in many ways.

]]> By: Gretel Ella Smith http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-16263 Gretel Ella Smith Tue, 10 Mar 2009 18:48:00 +0000 http://creeva.com/?p=3509#comment-16263 Your relationship with your mother, as well as the estrangement, sounds so much like mine. I, too, am keeping my child away from the known danger (my mother). My mother did enough damage to my brother and me... I am not letting her near my child. I have my entire life history, followed by some analysis on my blog site (<a href="http://www.thequeenandking.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">www.thequeenandking.blogspot.com</a>) if you want to drop by. Having this estrangement is tough, as I want a healthy and happy relationship with my mother-- but it's just not going to happen. My relationship has been the same my entire life... why would it change now. In fact, it only gets worse as the years go by. Thanks for sharing your story about the email-- it hit home in many ways. Your relationship with your mother, as well as the estrangement, sounds so much like mine. I, too, am keeping my child away from the known danger (my mother). My mother did enough damage to my brother and me… I am not letting her near my child. I have my entire life history, followed by some analysis on my blog site (http://www.thequeenandking.blogspot.com) if you want to drop by. Having this estrangement is tough, as I want a healthy and happy relationship with my mother– but it's just not going to happen. My relationship has been the same my entire life… why would it change now. In fact, it only gets worse as the years go by. Thanks for sharing your story about the email– it hit home in many ways.

]]> By: Pregnancy symptoms http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-16174 Pregnancy symptoms Fri, 23 Jan 2009 11:21:56 +0000 http://creeva.com/?p=3509#comment-16174 I wish to wish all pregnant women of good mood, easy pregnancy and natural sorts! Good luck also are happy! Give birth easily and independently! Let not doctors give birth for you, and you! Also adjust itself on chest feeding of the kid! Read the necessary information!Be, lovely pregnant mums and expecting posterities of the daddy, are healthy and wise! I wish to wish all pregnant women of good mood, easy pregnancy and natural sorts! Good luck also are happy! Give birth easily and independently! Let not doctors give birth for you, and you! Also adjust itself on chest feeding of the kid! Read the necessary information!Be, lovely pregnant mums and expecting posterities of the daddy, are healthy and wise!

]]> By: creeva http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-16042 creeva Mon, 03 Nov 2008 15:04:52 +0000 http://creeva.com/?p=3509#comment-16042 I'm not sure she would appreciate that humor I'm not sure she would appreciate that humor

]]> By: ghoulishcharm http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-16041 ghoulishcharm Sun, 02 Nov 2008 19:51:07 +0000 http://creeva.com/?p=3509#comment-16041 /repost<br>copy and past to a reply,<br><br>mom,<br>i still dont want children but my lord satan blessed us to bring forth the antichrist.<br>much love your son /repost
copy and past to a reply,

mom,
i still dont want children but my lord satan blessed us to bring forth the antichrist.
much love your son

]]> By: ghoulishcharm http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-16040 ghoulishcharm Sun, 02 Nov 2008 19:47:14 +0000 http://creeva.com/?p=3509#comment-16040 copy and past to a reply,<br><br>mom,<br> i still dont want children but my lord satan blessed us to bring forth bringing the antichrist.<br>much love your son copy and past to a reply,

mom,
i still dont want children but my lord satan blessed us to bring forth bringing the antichrist.
much love your son

]]> By: creeva http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-16030 creeva Mon, 27 Oct 2008 21:13:18 +0000 http://creeva.com/?p=3509#comment-16030 I also forgot to add in the discussion (meant to add it in the original post but forgot before it was published) Xie and I never really committed to having kids. She was pregnant, so we're ahving a kid. We are pro-choice, but would never abort our own child. So we're going to be parents. We will love our child, but that doesn't mean we would have ever felt our lives were incomplete without a child, which is where she meant to add the I told you so. I also forgot to add in the discussion (meant to add it in the original post but forgot before it was published) Xie and I never really committed to having kids. She was pregnant, so we're ahving a kid. We are pro-choice, but would never abort our own child. So we're going to be parents. We will love our child, but that doesn't mean we would have ever felt our lives were incomplete without a child, which is where she meant to add the I told you so.

]]> By: creeva http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-16029 creeva Mon, 27 Oct 2008 21:11:05 +0000 http://creeva.com/?p=3509#comment-16029 I'll be focusing some stories in November on my mother. Maybe some people will understand, maybe some people will just tell me I'm in the wrong - if they do think I am in the wrong - that's fine - doesn't mean I'll change how I will handle things. <br><br>To give you a brief synopsis - things my mother taught me for life. <br><br>A person is not to be judged by what they do, they are to be judged by how they appear. A good person owns nice thing. It's better to buy things for your house before buying things for your kids, since you are giving them a nice house to live after all. It's better to have friends that don't care about you, but make you feel good about yourself instead of people you can get emotionally involved with. Your never wrong so don't admit to it. Even if their is a credible witness everyone will believe you, because why would you be lying. <br><br>You can treat your children badly and call them names, but heaven help you if they call you the same names. Your children should respect you and love you because they gave birth to you, not because you have to earn it at - so don't bother earning it. <br><br><br>That's just some of what my mother has taught me. Through this whole thing she thinks it's my father (her ex) that turned me against her. Nothing could be further from the truth. My father has actually encouraged me to make good with her - she just can't believe that she is in the wrong or at fault for anything. <br><br>/deep breath<br><br>Ok I'll vent into some upcoming blog posts on this, then maybe I can put it behind me again. I'll be focusing some stories in November on my mother. Maybe some people will understand, maybe some people will just tell me I'm in the wrong – if they do think I am in the wrong – that's fine – doesn't mean I'll change how I will handle things.

To give you a brief synopsis – things my mother taught me for life.

A person is not to be judged by what they do, they are to be judged by how they appear. A good person owns nice thing. It's better to buy things for your house before buying things for your kids, since you are giving them a nice house to live after all. It's better to have friends that don't care about you, but make you feel good about yourself instead of people you can get emotionally involved with. Your never wrong so don't admit to it. Even if their is a credible witness everyone will believe you, because why would you be lying.

You can treat your children badly and call them names, but heaven help you if they call you the same names. Your children should respect you and love you because they gave birth to you, not because you have to earn it at – so don't bother earning it.

That's just some of what my mother has taught me. Through this whole thing she thinks it's my father (her ex) that turned me against her. Nothing could be further from the truth. My father has actually encouraged me to make good with her – she just can't believe that she is in the wrong or at fault for anything.

/deep breath

Ok I'll vent into some upcoming blog posts on this, then maybe I can put it behind me again.

]]> By: Groovymarlin http://creeva.com/2008/10/26/my-estranged-mother-e-mails-me-to-say-i-told-you-so/comment-page-1/#comment-16028 Groovymarlin Mon, 27 Oct 2008 15:10:10 +0000 http://creeva.com/?p=3509#comment-16028 Wow. Obviously I have no idea what happened between you and your mother and why you're estranged, but it does seem very sad. Sometimes people let us down, and it's always hardest to forgive when those people are family. Speaking from my own experience, one of my biggest regrets in life are the years that I spent somewhat distant from my own mother, because I blamed her for a lot of the emotional problems that I was dealing with in therapy. I wish now that I'd found a way to forgive and try to understand her sooner, so that I could have had more time with her as an adult, before her tragically untimely death from breast cancer in 1994. <br><br>Naturally, you know what's best for you and for your child. But I hope you keep an open mind. Wow. Obviously I have no idea what happened between you and your mother and why you're estranged, but it does seem very sad. Sometimes people let us down, and it's always hardest to forgive when those people are family. Speaking from my own experience, one of my biggest regrets in life are the years that I spent somewhat distant from my own mother, because I blamed her for a lot of the emotional problems that I was dealing with in therapy. I wish now that I'd found a way to forgive and try to understand her sooner, so that I could have had more time with her as an adult, before her tragically untimely death from breast cancer in 1994.

Naturally, you know what's best for you and for your child. But I hope you keep an open mind.

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