Creeva’s World 2.0

My fam­ily has always talked about each other behind their backs.  Back and forth, just some things don’t get said.  I’m more of a lay it on the line and let it hang out.   My brother and I don’t see eye to eye on most thing.   I’ve already started in on my mother online.   Is this how­ever still talk­ing behind their backs?   They all have the url to my home­page.   Most of my fam­ily at least check my site out in pass­ing.   I don’t see how I could be more pub­lic about it.  I’m not secre­tive, but I also don’t send out a blar­ing e-mail say­ing “I JUST WROTE ABOUT YOU ONLINE — YOU BETTER READ IT NOW”.

The rea­son this comes up goes to a yahoo group I used to man­age of just close friends a few years ago.   I was egged into talk­ing about another friends mar­i­tal prob­lems on the mes­sage board.   These issues were not a secret.   My post only stated that we should give them sup­port in their time of need.   Iron­i­cally the peo­ple that blasted me the most in regards to “talk­ing about this other cou­ple behind their backs” were the ones that were spread­ing this the most through IM and phone calls.   Every­one on the list new, but it was secret since it wasn’t in the open.

This type on men­tal­ity is what pisses me off the most when it comes to the “behind the backs” argu­ment.   If every­one already knows and you speak about it pub­licly to get the whole thing out in the open, how is it behind their backs?  Since I’ll be writ­ing a bit about my mother, and I won’t keep any e-mail com­ments she sends me to myself — I’ll lay it out in the open.   It won’t be behind a closed door — it will be trans­par­ent like glass.   If she wishes to have a dis­cus­sion in the com­ments where every­one can read what she has to say, the more the bet­ter.   I’ll be happy to have it out in public.

This is hav­ing things out, secrets just destroy peo­ple.   I share my life online because it’s cathar­tic.   I do abide by cer­tain rules.   If you send me an email it’s more then likely not going show up on my blog.  I respect and adore pri­vacy, even when I will share so much of myself online.   I love hav­ing dis­cus­sions in pub­lic, if I’m wrong — show me I’m an ass.  I don’t mind.   I’m well aware there are con­se­quences to all of my actions.  I’ll own up to those and suf­fer accord­ingly.  Let’s have it out and start a dis­cus­sion.  If your part of it, I def­i­nitely can not be accused of talk­ing behind your back.