I moved back to Ohio in October of 2005. My mother had been going through a hard time. Between my grandfather’s medical issues going on and my mother needing help, I thought it was best if I was closer to family again. I had been away for over four years and had only visited twice.
My mother was going through a separation. My step-father thought Columbus (2.5 hours away driving) had a better job market. My mother didn’t want to leave her house. Instead of working it out in any sane fashion that couples normally do they split up. Xie and I both believe that he had someone on the side, or he was hopeful of someone on the side. Either way things imploded in that house, some things I know form my mother, other things I’m sure that I don’t. Either way that is none of my business. I wanted my mother to be happy and move on.
When I first moved back Xie and I were living with her parents. Not too bad, the only major problem was internet. They lived out in the middle of nowhere and no high speed internet was available. So I did the 40 minute commute to my mother’s every day to get online. After about a month or of this I got a cellular modem to help alleviate the time and cost.
While I was there my mother was living off the stipend my step-father was paying her. She had grand plans of living off child support (like she did with the child support she had received for four kids from my father). Her youngest daughter (with my father) was dropping off of child support soon, so if divorce went forward she would be getting child support for the two children she had with my step-father.
My mother wasn’t too bright though. She talked about how my grandparents were offering to pay off the house if the divorce went through (they denied this when I confronted them on it). Her thought was she would put the house money in the bank and keep paying the mortgage so she could get the tax deduction. The only thing was, child support was not taxable. She was the one that told me it was non-taxable income. So in her mind, even though she didn’t have any taxable income, she would still get a refund. I couldn’t seem to get it through her head that if you don’t pay taxes you won’t get a refund. Some things don’t go through to the comatose I guess.